Lately, I have been noticing something different at Starbucks. Usually there is at least one table occupied by an older gentleman and a much younger stunning lady. Prior to being a part of the secret sugar society I would have written this off as “Dad-Daughter” bonding. Except now I know better.
Curious as to whether my suspicions are correct one evening I decided to sit at a near by table and observe.
Soon enough it was apparent that this was very much a first meeting. The usual questions were covered, the flirty looks were exchanged. It was obvious to me that there would be a second date. The gentleman asked the young lady if she would be interested in seeing him again. To this she replied “Sure, but we need to talk about my allowance before that happens.” He shifted uncomfortably and told her that this conversation is better left once they have gotten to know each other better.
She was persistent, a sure tale sign of a novice sugar baby. Soon enough most of the other Starbucks occupants were aware of what was going on. She went into detail about her needs. Once she was done, the gentleman got up and wished her a good life.
What went wrong there? Well it is a typical rookie mistake, pushing for the close before the premise has been established. The man was very much interested in the young woman. Had she accepted the second date I am sure he would have proposed an arrangement then. However, she pushed him into an uncomfortable zone. Sugars, be mindful of the other person’s feelings and needs. If they are uncomfortable with a topic it is better left alone. More importantly, do not have the allowance conversation in sugarbucks where everyone can hear! No matter what, discretion is key when it comes to sugarbowl.