Let’s assume that you’ve written back and forth with a sugar daddy and have now decided to meet for the first time. Where you guys decide to meet necessitates what you should wear and how you should act. That said, let’s just, for arguments sake, say that you decide on meeting for a drink. Let’s also assume that an arrangement hasn’t been discussed thus far.

What to wear, what to wear? Well, I say it’s always best to err on the side of caution when meeting a potential SD for the first time, almost like you are going to a job interview (with a little sex-appeal). You don’t want to reek of sex; you just want to be appealing enough that if you walk past your pot SD, the scent of sexy causes them do a double take in your general direction. That’s the ultimate reaction that you want from your SD.

Also, when choosing an eau de parfum to wear, please choose one other than the not-so-classic warm vanilla musk from Bath and Body Works…(May I suggest something from the Bond No. 9 collection)

If upon meeting, you are hitting it off, or your small talk is flowing easily, then you should be comfortable in asking your pot SD what type of arrangement he is looking for, express to him what needs you have, and tell him what you want the final outcome to be in an arrangement with an SD. If both you and your pot SD seem to be on the same page, as far as amount of time requested in seeing one another, needs for discretion, and concurrent physical attraction, then you can start discussing what financial, obligatory or otherwise wants you have.

You are never required to discuss anything with which you are uncomfortable…money, sex, types of arrangements, shit you don’t ever have to meet a SD if you so choose! But… like anything else, if you don’t put yourself out there, then you may never see or experience your full-potential as a succubus or sugar baby.

So good luck sugar babies on meeting your sugar daddies!

-SugarSugar

When deciding what kind of a sugar baby you are, also think about whether or not these are genuinely your character traits… Also, you may find that in certain circumstances or arrangements, you are either a combination of a few different sugar baby types, or are acting out a specific type for that specific SD. Any way you go about it, alter-ego or not, here are some of the types of sugar babies out there, which one are you?

Innocently Naïve SB- The virgin of sugar babies, these are the good girls, the inexperienced, in need of spoiling and guidance. This type of SB is sought out by SD’s because they are most likely to be “trainable” and usually aren’t too manipulative. There is a little uncertainty residing with this SB as she may be just getting her feet wet, not knowing what she’s getting into or whether she’s staying.

Gold Digger SB- Gosh, don’t you just love that term? Popular hip-hop music presently reminds us of the negative connotations the so-called “gold diggers” have, but I don’t see the problem. These SB’s like the finer things in life, if you’ve got it, then she wants it. These refined SB’s are probably the most attractive SB’s overall, and they feel deserving of nothing less than the best. Either they’ve worked hard for their money and expect you to treat them better than they treat themselves, or they may be accustomed to a certain lifestyle from a previous marriage, but these SB’s are label whores (again, not a BAD quality).

Seeking Marriage SB- Not your one-night-stand kind of sugar baby, this SB wants you to ride in on a white horse (and be hung like one) to rescue her from her life. She wants to be taken care of and she wants true love. She wants the companion, best-friend, lover, and all the other things that sugar daddies may or may not cringe at, although usually the former. Some SD’s are looking for the same thing….just probably not in those words.

Business SB- This sugar baby has goals, independence, and seeks opportunity. She is not afraid to soak up whatever business advice sugar daddies have that got them to where they’re at. These SB’s are quick learners, sometimes manipulative, and are overall inspiring to be around because they are such sponges for your knowledge (when’s the last time YOU didn’t want to talk about yourself?).

Attached SB- Otherwise taken, this sugar baby needs something from her sugar daddy that she isn’t getting at home. This may be the most likely NSA arrangement as these SB’s usually want to stay in their relationships with their significant other. Sugar daddies and sugar babies have needs alike, so why not share a cab and get what you both want? This type of sugar baby does really well with a married SD as both parties understand the need for discretion well.

Figure out what type of sugar baby you are, make it known to pot SD’s in your profile, and let the pieces fall where they may…

I’m jus’ sayin’

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Now back to you sugar babies… If you think you are ready to get out there and just start doing the sugar daddy dating thing online, you’ve got another thing coming. You can peruse, check things out, make a little contact, you know, small gestures like that. When it comes to meet and greets however, you could ease into that…if not, shoot, go for it, it’s your call! But all things considered, I need to talk to you about your profile.

Profiles

Your profile… Let’s talk about what will set you apart from all the other sugar babies out there. Let’s talk about blah versus Rah! (sorry, that was all I could come up with for a skeazy rhyme)

Many of you have asked me about bettering your profiles… and well, I think you should too. As it turns out, besides a great photo to catch the eye of a pot(potential) SD, the content of your profile accounts for the rest of why an SD would choose to contact you or not.

First of all, sugar babies and ladies, you could stand to be more positive and articulate when you choose your wording to lure sugar daddies into your lair.

For example, if your profile reads something like: “i needs a sugar daddy to buy me a car.dont have da means to get that surgery i want will do most anything like chillin.mother of 2 kids no time to waste”

Do I really need to tell you what’s wrong here…. First of all, use the fucking spell and grammar check that’s already built into your computer! My computer had a hell of a time letting me type that, and I wanted to do it on purpose, so let technology work for you, it will manage most spelling errors, punctuation, grammar, and run-on sentences (the least you could do is pretend you’re an intellect).. Secondly, desperation is not your friend.. Rarely do pot sugar daddies enjoy coming to the aid of a desperate woman, with 2 kids to boot; it just reeks of the type of swindling that lands you driving a lemon home from the used car lot. Also, while you may think it’s helpful to just come out and say what you need desperately, don’t… Sugar daddies give because they want to, and usually because they think you work hard and are deserving of some of the wealth they have. Sugar daddies will rarely read that profile and think, “well now there’s a sugar baby who works hard, takes care of business, and herself..therefore she deserves to be pampered by me.” To be honest, I’m sure that a pot sugar daddy first clicks on your profile if he is attracted to you, reads the first couple of words, and doesn’t even waste a thought on them. As sad as it is, we are on the World Wide Web, where all people have to show for themselves are their words, point blank. Black and white letters, orchestrated in such a way that pot SD’s either ponder them and want to contact you, or don’t even waste a brain cell to read the second word, or pseudo-word if you weren’t exactly grammatically correct.

So please check your profiles and their content, would you want to meet you? Remove yourself from the situation if you can, are you interesting enough that you would want to get to know you better? Did you include information about yourself that would intrigue you if you stumbled across your own profile? If you answered “no” to any of those questions, get on it sugar babies! You want a sugar daddy to take you seriously and respect you? At least take the bloody time to write a decent profile! Shit, rip off some quotes from historical political leaders or poets while you’re at it, anything to stand out will serve you well when sugar daddies are speed reading through profiles.

I’m jus’ sayin’

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New reality shows launched, showcasing battles between the said “cougars” versus the “sugar babies”. Feminism was at an all-time high; women who are fiscally comfortable, have already been married with kids and divorced,  now wanted the cajones in relationships…. Really?…

Yeah, I’m going to have to call bull-shit on that one. Sugar babies are the closest thing to genetic perfection of what a woman should be.  I used to think that this was solely my opinion, but come to find out, our species as females have always been inclined to seek out the protector and provider.  Those men tended to be older, having more experience in actually knowing what it took to provide for their mates. Why would time change that innate need in us? What, because we can make more money, provide for our significant others and our children? Time doesn’t just change something like that.

It’s a façade when women stake the claim of not needing a man. Yeah, so what? Go ahead… Work your asses off for half the pay, grow old and wise, obtain 50 cats or more, see if I care– Those women die alone, the line ends with them, it’s survival of the fittest at it’s best.

I say, let those women be, in their quest to the top, not needing a man. Pfft! I need a man, want a man, and not just any man, the kind of man who can provide for me and my kin for generations to come! Isn’t that the very definition of sugar daddy dating? It’s innate, inherent, and likely that you cannot fight the urge to be a spoiled brat anyway, so why go against it? Date men who are older, more mature, and can provide for you and your entourage!

This “cougar” thing is not only passé as a trend, but it doesn’t even follow the species-wide need to feel safe and taken care of, you cannot always do that for yourself. The “cougar” lifestyle puts the younger man in the sugar baby role, allowing them to take advantage, ultimately becoming the weaker partner anyway…

I don’t want a frail or meek sugar baby(boy) for myself, I want a man to take control, grab the reigns, and have the cajones to say: “Come here baby…Now…I said NOW”

Then follow it with: “I got this for you….”

I’m Jus’ Sayin—

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Okay… Let’s just start from the beginning, what do you want? Now don’t jump the gun and start rattling off all of the “things” you want, not yet..We are not there yet… What do you want to get out of the experience of dating a sugar daddy?

Sugar daddy dating can mean different things to everyone, but I don’t care about everyone, I care about you… So, are you a sugar baby that is married or in a relationship and you just want to play a little on the side, get what you’re not gettin at home? OR…Maybe you are a single mom with not a lot of free time to do the traditional “dating” thing and go on formal dates? OR… you might be the type of sugar baby who wants a long term sugar daddy, who wishes to ride into the sunset…under the rainbow…with all the diamonds in the world on your fingers… Which ever type of sugar baby you are or want to be, MAKE IT KNOWN…..

That is the very first thing that you need to do sugar babies; have a sit-down with yourself and figure it out. If you “don’t know” what it is that you want, then you may not be that successful at sugar daddy dating. Actually, any kind of dating for that matter..if you don’t know what you want, then you won’t find what you need, because who knows what you’re looking for?

Let’s not make this some sort of convoluted querry. I am asking you a solid question and I will not move ahead to the rest of the story until you figure it out.

Listen, I cannot actually help you new sugar babies unless you want to help yourself.. I cannot go out on your dates for you (Nor do you want me to, because the SD’s love me) I cannot literally hold your hand and lead through the process of sugar daddy dating.. It doesn’t work like that.

I am here to help…and we will move on to more new sugar baby how to’s once you marinade in what kind of sugar baby you are….alright? Fine… I’m jus sayin

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The problematic situation that always arises when sugar babies start telling stories is just that, they start telling stories. Let’s face it; there aren’t that many sugar daddies to go around, especially if you are part of an internet dating site such as SugarSugar.com or the like. So, if you and your sugar baby girlfriends end up dating the same sugar daddies, it would make for quite a competitive sport if you end up doing it simultaneously.  Then you would start vying for the same sugar daddy’s attention, and frankly, that just doesn’t bode well in sugar baby friendships.  And I would never speak of the things that my sugar daddy does for me either. We then would start to break it down and tell each other of the things that our sugar daddy’s do for us, ending up in some sort of convoluted race to an unknown finish line, growing greedier and greedier til one or both of us lose that sugar daddy for good.  All because of some stupid sport someone invented called “Fishing.” 

My girlfriends always go fishing at a local high-end restaurant, hoping to catch that whale, or that large bass.  Yeah, the bass reference is really not that appealing I know…But the whale, oh the whale! I dated a whale once; he purchased my new ta-ta’s and ran without ever touching them.  I am not sure why, considering HE paid for them. That whale, boy, he said I was getting too close! Only because he tried to move me in with him, give me a car, and a new life… his choice, by the way.

I told one of my sugar baby girlfriends about that whale, so she went fishing at that same restaurant and caught her own.  I wonder if the whales out there know that that place is where sugar babes go fishing for them, I wonder if they feel hunted. Well, whatever, it’s not like they’re being hung up to dry after a kill, sheesh!

They come to us by their own recognizance, aware of the dangers and small risks of dating a younger sugar baby who likes nice things…. I’m jus sayin

Have you ever met someone so sweet, so beautiful, so adoring that you almost instantly fall in-love with them, wanting to please them in any way? I met a person like this once, “intoxicating”, some would say.  I and everyone this person met almost always fell under their spell, the way they spoke, the calmness (I later came to learn was drug-induced) in their presence, and the sparkle in their eye was to blame. As it turns out, I’m a very compassionate person; my weakness is the pain of others.  I originally blamed this on the fact that I am, a woman.  Men though, fall victim to it too!  Now I chalk it up to being human, it’s human nature to feel compassion and run to the help of those in need.  And if the person in need is attractive, seemingly kind, and draws others to them by nature, we rush to their aid so quickly that we never question our own logic.

I met a sugar baby who was so intoxicating to those around her, that she convinced sugar daddies and other sugar babies alike that she was in dire need of help.  If, as a sugar baby, you have to resort to using the one thing that you know will make people feel sorry or compassion for you by staging an event that renders you helpless….I can’t say without any certainty that you shouldn’t be locked away without a key.

Faking or continuously lying about a staged event or illness to sugar daddies in order to gain their compassion and/or monetary help is not the worst thing you could do to a man.  Something like that carries the weight of being one of the worst things that you could ever do to another human being, period.  Commanding the emotions of others like a marionette puppet is akin to blindfolding someone, placing them at the edge of a precipice, then gently shoving them over the edge while you laugh at the stupidity of all. Cruel and heartless cross my mind.  Spineless and a waste of space follow.

If you’re going to sugar date, at any level, be true to yourself and the people you spend time with. “Going all the way” to get your way does not mean at any cost, and certainly not at the cost of others’ inherent emotions.  Even the most shallow sugar babies and daddies would agree, lying about life-threatening events for monetary gain or sexual favors does not make you a good sugar baby or sugar daddy, it just kind of makes you sick.  Sad comes to mind, as does “What the fuck?”

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What happened? “I fell down the stairs,” right? It’s certainly a welcomed change when the answer is; “I got punched in the eye.” My girlfriend told me this after she had gone on a date with a man NOT from SugarSugar.com.

I stopped what I was doing. “Wait, what? Some guy punched you in the face?” (Causing her black eye)

I thought she was pulling my leg…Who punches a woman in the face, on the second date no less.  She tells me that the first date was coffee and they had a connection and a great time. She said there were no red flags, I disagreed… She met him through Match.com, that’s the red flag in my book. Anyway, then she tells me that they met at a restaurant for a few beers and dinner. She said things still were going well (The next red flag to me was the multiple beers on the second date).

Then my friend went to leave, so he walked her to her car, (The restaurant was busy so she had to park a little ways away, in a darker area no less). Being the lady that she is, my friend was going to go home, not over to this dudes house. But before she went to do that, they made out some, things got a little hot and heavy, and then she wanted to leave before she could get talked in to going home with this guy. She played coy with him, teasing him a little like girls are so good at doing. Unfortunately he didn’t want her to go home, he wanted her to come over to his place. But most men would, right? Things get hot and heavy and we pull the rug out from underneath them, leaving them with blue balls. I’m pretty sure that men don’t take kindly to that, and as my girlfriend went to escape his tight embrace, he came around with a right hook, throwing her on the hood of her car. He took off running before she could peel herself off her vehicle enough to react in any sort of way…

A black-eye. She asks me why. Says she never saw it coming. I tell her it’s because she didn’t meet a sugar daddy through SugarSugar.com. I tell her at least going into any sort of sugar daddy sugar baby relationship, there’s mutual respect and no expectations. I conclude that that’s not the case with those ‘other’ sites, that they’re a host of red flags.

I told her that the moral of the story was not to get out of line, that she deserved it a little. “At the very least,” I told her, “I hope you learned your lesson. Don’t be stupid, and don’t get out of line little sugar baby.” –I’m jus sayin’

To answer the first question, I believe that men are just naturally polygamous. Since ancient times, history tells us about kings, emperors, pharaohs, and their numerous concubines. Young and sexy beautiful women have always been the weakness of men. A classic example is the biblical figure called Samson. And for a more recent example, who could forget about former President Bill Clinton.

My answer to the second question is, it’s not that a sugar daddy is not happy with his wife anymore. If he were, divorce papers would probably be ready and just waiting for the John Hancocks. But no… most sugar daddies still love their wives. They just want to have someone younger to play with. And there are times that there’s something wifey doesn’t want to do which sugar baby is pretty much willing to do.

As for families, I think sugar daddies love their families despite the fact that they’re playing around with younger women and looking for threesomes of one form or another. These are the sugar daddies who just enter mutually beneficial relationships for the excitements and joy a sugar baby can bring. They’re not actually hoping to leave their families and make a new ones.

Now that you know a bit more about how to be a sugar daddy, or why someone is a sugar daddy, it’s time to try it yourself! So if you are a sugar daddy seeking a mutually beneficial relationship with a younger woman, go check us out. You’ll find plenty of young and beautiful sexy women in there seeking for the same thing.

Have you ever been out and about and seen a young woman with roots for days? There is really only one word that ever comes to mind, and that grammatical gem is…wait for it….“Trashy”

Big surprise, huh? As a Sugar Baby, I think all that crap is trashy, chipped finger nail polish, roots for days, split ends, coin-slot ass crack, and anything unshaven, end of story. You think sugar daddies don’t notice these things, because they never seem to mention it when you are on top of it, right?  Let me inform you, they notice.  They notice, but rather than comment on when you forget to do one or more of the above personal details, they just opt for avoidance and are a little less interested.  And let’s be honest, even if we’re not totally interested in our sugar daddies, we still want to have first dibs on their attention and affections! Through SugarSugar.com, I have found some amazing sugar daddies, but they all expect a certain amount of classy.

So hear hear! In order to be at the top of your sugar daddy’s list for a phone call, night out, or holiday; you must make sure to do the following:

• Get your hairs did…No trashy regrowth is ever seen as classy or says that you care about yourself at all…oh, and try for a color that suites you, white blond fried straw-like hair doesn’t suit everyone
• Keep up on the manicuring of body hair, or lack thereof, your five o’clock shadow is less hot than your sugar daddy’s….legs, nether regions, chest, shoot, ANY body part! Pay close attention
• Please take the time to get your nails done, at the very least, regular pedicures to rid yourself of unwanted alligator skin from wearing your stripper heels around…that crap will dry out the heels on your dogs
• Low-rise jeans that show the coin slot crackage, not too hot anymore…Plus, sugar babies, it was NEVER classy – like you were unaware of this fact?
• Lastly, watch the language.  It has never been classy for a sugar baby, no matter the age, to swear like a sailor.  All that does is show your lack of language skills, there are so many BETTER ways to say things than with vulgarity.  Do you even want sugar daddies to take you anywhere?  It will be obvious that you don’t if you cannot be a lady in some capacity by the inability to use other words besides curse words. (That language does serve, however, in the bedroom)

Listen….Try it….I’m just sayin’