Rewind to the moment when women, or sugar babies, began to realize their effect on men.

I can remember this vivid moment happening in my adult life, and let’s be honest, it’s really only your adult life that matters, anything before that is like the pre-qualifying round, if you make it, you can play.

If you were ever an athlete, growing up renders you unaware to the sexual powers your body possesses. The way the body performs and functions are the ways in which it’s measured, not in bed and not by the way it looks.

When I became aware of the sexual powers a lean strong body can hold over men of all ages, I chose to invest in its sustainability by spending time and money on maintaining it.

Sugar daddies love when, during moments of intimacy, you wrap a pair of strong legs around them, use core strength (thank you Pilates), stabilize a tight and erect torso, and disseminate your prowess all over them. It’s almost a perfect weapon, almost. Few sugar daddies have been able to withstand its power.

So… on that note… sugar babies really need to learn to invest in themselves more, and not just rely on sugar daddies for everything! Having sugar daddies in our lives is a treat, not to be taken for granted.

I mean, let’s face it, you expect a sugar daddy to be the only one to pay for a membership on sugar daddy dating sites like sugarsugar.com? Even before they’ve met any of you lovely ladies? That’s preposterous! Isn’t that like paying $100 to choose from door number 1, 2, or 3 and finding nothing on the other side? That is not fair—that is not winning!

Come on, meet a generous sugar daddy in the middle and get your own membership! Don’t be so helpless, if you can help it—

Things you can do to invest in yourself that may impress a sugar daddy:

• Pay for your own friggin’ sugar baby membership
• Be as active as possible! Go take a walk on the wild side and run your ass off—nobody likes a flabby sugar baby
• Wash your hair, brush it, and style it… daily- duh!
• Shop for your own clothes, or hire a personal stylist- how can you afford one? Well prioritize your finances, duh! – You are here to be a better sugar baby, not ask for a handout

Know your power as a sexual prowess.

Use it to your advantage.

Take ownership and responsibility of the care and well-being of yourself.

Can’t do these things—then you really have no business dating, sugar daddies or otherwise. Really, no joke.

Don’t waste a sugar daddy’s time, don’t waste your time.

Oh yeah, and don’t forget what I said about wrapping your legs around your sugar daddies face—works every time!

I never sought out to date a sugar daddy, not a self-proclaimed one or otherwise. I have always had girlfriends that were sugar babies, and I never judged them necessarily, I just always thought I wouldn’t cheapen myself, stooping to dating based on an annual income.

The fact of the matter is, I’ve never had trouble dating in general..I haven’t had trouble finding men that find me attractive, wanting to be around me..I’ve never found a shortage of men wanting to be my boyfriend, husband, or otherwise take care of me and my needs… So WHY would I subject myself to surrender to the world of sugar daddy dating, lessening my female status and power (or so I thought)? I’m not the best-looking by any means, just to let you know, I’m not tooting my own horn. I just meet people easily and I’m non-threatening, and I think that’s the extent of it.

I then met this man who owned and ran his own technology company, William*. We met through a business matter, (no, not THAT kind of transaction), so I got to know him in a professional way. Come to find out, you can tell a lot about a man based on his business actions and transactions! The funny thing about this man, was that although he was wealthy, you’d never guess it the way he looked. Not to say that he didn’t dress well, it was more about his personality and demeanor, he was very humble about his way of life.

Every time I saw William, the more we spoke, expressing more personal data as time went on. I was thoroughly impressed and taken by how he was with his employees and people in general. He was generous, kind, and believed in the golden rule. He was also extremely generous to his ex-wife, the mother of his kids. She never had to work when they were married, and she’ll never have to work again. He never spoke ill of her, just sometimes wondered why she acted so greedy and cruel. He disclosed how, by helping others, he was helping himself. He was the ultimate gentleman, in my eyes (though he may be the kind that makes you ill, running to the nearest loo)

William seemed comfortable in his conversation with me. He was 25 years older than me, but the more time we spent together, the fewer years it seemed. After wrapping up business with William one evening, he asked me if I would accompany him to dinner. We had already learned that we were both foodies and winos, so I figured, why not? I accepted!

I met William at the restaurant for dinner, (something I always practice on first dates), and although I looked nice, because I had gotten to know him organically, I didn’t feel the need to try to over-impress him. I hardly noticed the staring and gawking that ensued because of our age gap, (25 years difference can look uber strange no matter who you are). Conversation came easy between us, and that night was no exception. We talked about our adventures in life, the places we wanted to visit, and the intricacies of family and marriage. We shared a bottle of wine and talked each other’s ears off, closing the place down. It was the longest dinner date I ever had. He was so kind and gentle toward me and everyone else; I easily developed a strong liking toward him as a man, and as a human being overall.

That evening with William brought with it, the start of a beautiful friendship, the beginnings of intimacy with an older man, and the eventual meaning of the impact a strong independent female like myself can have on the opposite sex.

-Sugar Sugar

*Not his real name

When deciding what kind of a sugar baby you are, also think about whether or not these are genuinely your character traits… Also, you may find that in certain circumstances or arrangements, you are either a combination of a few different sugar baby types, or are acting out a specific type for that specific SD. Any way you go about it, alter-ego or not, here are some of the types of sugar babies out there, which one are you?

Innocently Naïve SB- The virgin of sugar babies, these are the good girls, the inexperienced, in need of spoiling and guidance. This type of SB is sought out by SD’s because they are most likely to be “trainable” and usually aren’t too manipulative. There is a little uncertainty residing with this SB as she may be just getting her feet wet, not knowing what she’s getting into or whether she’s staying.

Gold Digger SB- Gosh, don’t you just love that term? Popular hip-hop music presently reminds us of the negative connotations the so-called “gold diggers” have, but I don’t see the problem. These SB’s like the finer things in life, if you’ve got it, then she wants it. These refined SB’s are probably the most attractive SB’s overall, and they feel deserving of nothing less than the best. Either they’ve worked hard for their money and expect you to treat them better than they treat themselves, or they may be accustomed to a certain lifestyle from a previous marriage, but these SB’s are label whores (again, not a BAD quality).

Seeking Marriage SB- Not your one-night-stand kind of sugar baby, this SB wants you to ride in on a white horse (and be hung like one) to rescue her from her life. She wants to be taken care of and she wants true love. She wants the companion, best-friend, lover, and all the other things that sugar daddies may or may not cringe at, although usually the former. Some SD’s are looking for the same thing….just probably not in those words.

Business SB- This sugar baby has goals, independence, and seeks opportunity. She is not afraid to soak up whatever business advice sugar daddies have that got them to where they’re at. These SB’s are quick learners, sometimes manipulative, and are overall inspiring to be around because they are such sponges for your knowledge (when’s the last time YOU didn’t want to talk about yourself?).

Attached SB- Otherwise taken, this sugar baby needs something from her sugar daddy that she isn’t getting at home. This may be the most likely NSA arrangement as these SB’s usually want to stay in their relationships with their significant other. Sugar daddies and sugar babies have needs alike, so why not share a cab and get what you both want? This type of sugar baby does really well with a married SD as both parties understand the need for discretion well.

Figure out what type of sugar baby you are, make it known to pot SD’s in your profile, and let the pieces fall where they may…

I’m jus’ sayin’

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This got me thinking about the roles that I play as a sugar baby. There are plenty of alter ego roles that I play in my daily life when I’m sugar daddy dating.  Now, I don’t always dress Lady Gaga style with my stilettos made to look like slinkies, long trench coats with trains, and wigs du jour… Well, sometimes… But more so, if I ever need to look like I belong somewhere else, a dungeon or strip club, I have the means to do so. I know that when a sugar daddy has a sugar baby like me, he can count on visual excitement with the many looks that I can pull off for him. It’s like I have an on-set wardrobe, like a costumer or artistic director, ready to go when there’s a scene change.

The importance of having a look for any, and I mean ANY occasion, is that you are a sure hit with any sugar daddy, just let your imagination, or his, lead you. When a partners have been together for a long time, some therapists tell them to try the whole “role play” thing in and out of the bedroom in order to spice things up..I say, HELL yeah, and why do you have to be together for a long time to pull out those guns? Variety is the spice of life, right? If you see a pink rubber suit on sale for half off, don’t even think about hesitating on that purchase, you never know when you’ll be in a situation where you’ll want to pair that up with a matching wig and pumps, the “pink rubber machine” is what I like to call that outfit…Ooh the sugar daddies love that one! On a side note though, don’t try to get into it when you’re wet, that shit aint going nowhere, you’ll need oil!  It’s kind of like wearing a slip and slide…

Alter egos are so much fun when you’re sugar daddy dating, they allow you the literal flexibility of becoming whomever, whenever.. I’m jus’ sayin

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Your decision to look into sugar dating, whether you are a sugar baby, sugar daddy, or otherwise, is one that people have been making since the beginning of time. That “type” of relationship is one which mirrors most interpersonal experiences.

Have you ever been in one of those relationships where, instead of breaking things off completely, you sort-of let things waver for a while, finally letting it fade to black.  Like a stage house play, right before the intermission; the lights dim, there’s no clapping or standing ovation….Just a long line to the bathroom.  And maybe, in this type of relationship, you feel the end near, during the pause….but you just can’t leave.  You’re waiting, hoping for the best to come, if you just hold out a little while longer, it’ll get better, it HAS to!  During Act two of this type of relationship, you are still gaining something out of it, right? I mean sure, it’s not all roses and kittens, but the sex, if there is any, is alright (insert question mark here)….. and then the final act ensues.

Ugh,  you let these relationships hang on because you get something out of it.  That’s why you sit through the whole second act of the stupid play without as much as a nap, because you get some sort of satisfaction from it!  Why does anyone necessarily DO what they DO?!?  Because they have something to gain! Sugar daddy or baby dating is the same, without the extra acts and boring scenes.

We are with one another, spend time with each other, because we want to… because we are getting something out of it, end of story.  Even if all else is crap, the sex is ok, and the time spent is wasted at best… deep down, there is some ego-driven, albeit menial,  benefit that you get out of spending time with someone you don’t really want to.  Maybe those are the ebbs and flows of interpersonal relationships as a whole.  Sugar babies and sugar daddies alike, benefit exclusively by spending time with one another, gaining satisfaction in the ways they see fit.  But that’s just like any other relationship ever had, isn’t it?

My advice,  you should stay for the standing ovation.

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To answer the first question, I believe that men are just naturally polygamous. Since ancient times, history tells us about kings, emperors, pharaohs, and their numerous concubines. Young and sexy beautiful women have always been the weakness of men. A classic example is the biblical figure called Samson. And for a more recent example, who could forget about former President Bill Clinton.

My answer to the second question is, it’s not that a sugar daddy is not happy with his wife anymore. If he were, divorce papers would probably be ready and just waiting for the John Hancocks. But no… most sugar daddies still love their wives. They just want to have someone younger to play with. And there are times that there’s something wifey doesn’t want to do which sugar baby is pretty much willing to do.

As for families, I think sugar daddies love their families despite the fact that they’re playing around with younger women and looking for threesomes of one form or another. These are the sugar daddies who just enter mutually beneficial relationships for the excitements and joy a sugar baby can bring. They’re not actually hoping to leave their families and make a new ones.

Now that you know a bit more about how to be a sugar daddy, or why someone is a sugar daddy, it’s time to try it yourself! So if you are a sugar daddy seeking a mutually beneficial relationship with a younger woman, go check us out. You’ll find plenty of young and beautiful sexy women in there seeking for the same thing.

If you’ve ever had dates like these from a sugar daddy, they can either be quite intense and full of passion, or they can be most closely akin to watching paint dry.  Mine was the latter. If the wealthy men never treated me to anything extravagant, it would have been easy to cut out early. Unfortunately, this was the sugar daddy who already treated me to a 745i BMW a month ago or so. Now don’t get me wrong, when he and I fuck, there are some fireworks, but then they quickly fade to sparklers, then to those annoying trick birthday candles that you practically have to spit on to blow out. And even with there being some chemistry in the bedroom, unfortunately, he’s not on Viagra or Cialis, and that gives him an expiration date of ten minutes or so into the date. I wish sugar daddies weren’t so proud of their sexual masculinity all the time. The truth is, after a certain age, just like we sugar babies eventually come up against, things are bound to either break down, work slower, or need oil. Ya, kind of like a car sugar daddies! If your stuff isn’t working like it used to, please, please allow yourself , and treat us with, the opportunity of taking an oral prescription that will help in that department.

“You take care of  me, I’ll take care of you,” is what you should say when you’re sugar daddy dating. Next time I spend 24 hours with my sugar daddy, I’ll be sure to crush up those little blue pills I got from my Mexico, slip them in his drink, then let him take me in the back seat of my new car when they kick in!

I’m really not fond of watching paint dry, and if I don’t have to have that experience soon I’ll be the wiser. There’s got to be more at SugarSugar.com for me!

There are times that your sugar daddy will require a lot of attention, and times when he’ll want you to split.  Do your best to make sure that your sugar daddy always has what he needs, a smack on the rear or a kiss on the cheek, whatever the occasion calls for.  No matter what kind of time your sugar daddy has available to spend with you, it is your responsibility as a sugar baby to make sure that it’s quality time, not quantity time!

He wants to watch back-to-back James Bond flicks with you all weekend?  Then be the best Pussy Galore ever!

I like to meet potentials right after work. Therefore, I end up attending dates in my very conservative work attire. A pressed french cuff shirt and black pants or a skirt on par with pumps is the name of the game for me.

If you are meeting some of them later on in the night a simple black dress will do you wonders. Pair that off with pearls and sexy shoes is sure to leave him speachless.

However, if the meeting is a bit more low key (a-la-starbucks), opt out for a tunic and leggings. A nice pair of slim fitting jeans paired with a cute top always does the trick.

Avoid wearing too revealing of an attire. You do not want to look like someone he picked up off the street. Being sexy is great but being slutty sends the wrong message.

Accenting your “assets” is great when done in moderation. A lower cut blouse alludes him to what is to come without being too much. A belly shirt which is low cut as well on the other hand makes him view you in a whole other light.

What are some of your staples when going out on dates?

I am fortunate enough to live near my SD and was able to get snowed in with him. Snowball fights, and modified snow angels* were on the agenda. There was much quality time spent on the couch, sipping wine and cooking dinner.

If you are not as fortunate to get snowed in with your SD there are some things you could do to show him you miss him. For example taking a pictures of said modified snow angels and sending it to him. Or cooking up a batch of cookies and presenting them to him next time you see him.

However, if you do not have an SD do not despair. This is the perfect time to start initiating contact with one of the many SDs on sugarsugar.com. Most of them are stuck inside as well. Some have gotten a snow day due to many offices closing. In other words, they are free to spend this time communicating with you and taking steps towards meeting. Be proactive! Who knows maybe by the next snow storm you will have a brand new SD to get snowed in with.

*modified snow angels – snow angels in your bathing suit